I really like David Charlesworth, but I agree that his pace is fairly slow. I know where you're coming from with Matt Estlea being a bit "in your face", but that's usually only in the first few seconds of the video and then he settles down to a really informative (and not at all dogmatic) pace.
When I was trying to learn, I watched loads of videos from lots of youtubers (including Rob Cosman, Paul Sellers, Stumpy Nubbs, Rex Krueger, Roy Underhill etc etc) and I was getting to the point that I didn't think I could learn anything more from youtube (obviously there's only so much you can learn from watching). Then I watched some Matt Estlea videos and had several "aha!" moments where things really clicked. The fact he showed several different ways of doing things really helped me. The same happened with David Charlesworth, although only with the videos I bought from his website rather than the stuff on youtube.
If I were starting again, I'd start with the Matt Estlea back-catalogue and then watch some David Charlesworth, Mitch Peacock and Rex Krueger videos.
Rob Cosman irritates me, especially all the many, many videos he's done that suggest woodwork is only possible if you buy lots of obscenely expensive stuff that he just happens to sell.
I guess it's inevitable that I'd have a different perspective from someone who learnt woodworking via "proper" tuition and then watched youtube later; videos like the Matt Estlea ones were my only tuition (apart from this forum of course!).
Stumpy Nubs is probably second-to-none if you're a power work woodworker, but I've mostly move away from such noisy stuff!
Oh, and I don't think anyone has mentioned
GR Woodworking yet. He won't teach you anything, but there can't be many more serene and satisfying woodwork videos out there.